Friends... Attitude...

It seems I have a lot of things to do... but things happen the whole day today is something that i should keep it as a lesson for me and here, i would like to share it with my valued readers...

Friends...
We got so many friend right..? We got all type of friends.. from the range of wealthy to the not so wealthy... which one is better to be friends with..?

Back in those days in primary school whereby my x is about the same level as i am, we used to meet up and share almost everything... even we have break off, we still can meet up to share some ideas and issues.. No problems in keep in touch even she is with someone else..

A few years ago, she got married with one man which already establish and have his own business not so long after that, he got the dato' title.. Automatically my friend are becoming datin already.. Which I'm happy for her too for the good things that she got..

As times goes by, the busyness of her activities plus with her environment surrounded by most of wealthy people makes her life changes a bit... and of course some of my appointment with her being neglected without any response.. Sms no reply, call sometimes no pick up... which for me, its ok.. I have to understand her activities even i don't even know what is exactly her activities is..

And today.. As I was invited to her house for the wedding of her brother, i manage to go down to her hometown just to fulfill the invitation from my friend.. Driving alone from KL takes me about 1 hour plus to reach to the destination.. (Not a problem aite...?) And i love driving so that no matters for me at all...

Reach her home around 2pm.. send a sms coz call is not being pick up.. (must be bz maa... kenduri kawin la katakan...) So i shake hand with some of her relatives... and straight away go for the meal... Sit down under a tree and enjoying my meal...

Cut short.. Sms that i have arrived and she did reply to ask me to have for the food.. okla... Cut short some more.. Just about to go back, then I saw her.. with the warm old friend relationship, i took the opportunity to talk with her about 30 sec.. then she ask me not to go yet..

While waiting, i took the opportunity to talk to her mother and father (since my dad got some relationship with them..) and after waiting for about 30 minutes, i decided to go back to kl.. During that 30 minutes i saw her shaking hand and greeting peoples that i can say same level with her now and took her about more than 5 minutes for every person that came... Send a few sms but no reply.. still ok for me... then last sms i just say 'thanks'.. then i go off without seeing her... (even she asked me to wait previously..) And until this moment, no reply sms or even call from her.. Which is still ok for me.. used to it so many times...

Another cases of the day..
Back in uni, a lots of friend we met and we decide to whom we want to be closed.. Around 7pm today i receive a sms from my male friend which we used to study together.. but now he is already a rich man which previously he is not..... income monthly maybe reach about 100k.. The sms is just very simple.. just want to ask for a drinks.. And for me, i got no issues... i love to keep in touch with friends..

So cut short again, we agreed to meet up around 11pm at one of the lepak place in kl.. and i went there with my another friends (which also studied at the same uni).. And both of us know this already rich man very well since we stay next to each other during our matriculation.

After waiting about 3 hours, a few sms sent to him but none get replied... so we decided to call him and by that time we are already not at that shop... After a few calls then we manage to get thru him.. and he said he is already in that shop that we plan earlier... So my friend and i rush back to that particular shop because don't want him to wait for us...

When we reach the shop, we saw him sitting at one long table with his friends.. male and female... all vouge females around him and all wealthy men around him.. driving 5 series beemer and fairlady, is not a match for us that driving malaysian cars.. so my friend and i decide to sit on the other table coz we don't want to disturb them.. and while waiting for his sms or call to ask about us.. guess what? no sms no call until he left the shop while my friend and i watch him walk away to his car.. He might not see us because he is surrounded by his new friends.. And still no sms or calls from him until this moment which my friend and i already back in office with a scar in our heart.. we wait so long just to maintain the relationship with him.. and he is the one who asking us to have drinks with him in the first place.. A two guys heart hurts.. i can see the pain in my friends eyes which he immediately sleeping after reach my office... "Bro.. sorry for you.. I know its even harder for you coz he is your roommate previously..."

Things to be thinking of...
1. How do you measure a value of your friendship?
2. Is it based on monetary or is it years of friendship?
3. Are you treating your friends equally? Why?
4. Who should you value more?
5. Friends when you have nothing and friends when you have so many things... Which one is better?
6. Friends who support you with material or friends who support you using their time... which one is more expensive? Which one you can buy?
7. And so many thing to be thinking of...

* This apply to your partner as well...

This experience may seems unfair... But i believe most of people experience this situation..

Be prepared my valued reader... we might be the person who is rich enough or we might be the person who have wealthy friends...

But not all person are like that.... I dedicate this section to my dear valued friend which is now my boss and also my business partner...

Beb..
Gua respect lu... walaupun dulu lu takde apa apa... and now lu dah kira success bagi gua... Lu pun ada beemer, alphard, gtr14 dan macam macam lagi... tapi lu still tak lupa kengkawan... lu tolong gua masa gua susah... lu tolong gua untuk gua jadi senang macam lu... tak macam ada sesetengah orang yang cuma janji kosong..
gua dah anggap lu lebih dari adik beradik gua... dan gua dah tak tau nak panggil apa dah tu.. even sometimes kita ada berselisih faham tapi lu terus terang dengan gua.. dan gua pun senang nak terus terang dengan lu (even ada masanya gua tak terus terang gak... sebab gua nak jaga erasaan lu... dan gua tau lu pun banyak tak terus terang dengan gua..) even there are times orang yang rapat ngan gua rapat dengan lu... gua tak kisah beb... itu diaorang punya pilihan... gua tak bleh nak halang... Itu antara gua dengan diaorang... gua re-value balik nilai friendship gua dengan diaorang... Biar gua terasa hati jangan lu terasa hati... Gua tak tau camne nak cakap direct kat lu... At least kat sini kekal la apa yang gua tulis... kalau umur gua tak panjang, ini memang untuk lu beb...

Sahabatku yang berlapan...
Korang memang aku tak leh lupa... sampai mati pun aku akan ingat korang... apa yang korang mintak aku tolong, aku akan cuba sedaya upaya... sebab pengorbaan korang dulu memang sesuatu yang aku tak mampu nak balas... I love u all guys forever..

Orang orang yang disayangi dan menyayangi..
Terima kasih atas pengorbanan yang telah dilakukan... Semua yang berlaku ini adalah untuk kesenangan kalian di hari kemudian.. And I love u all too... (And I miss my mom and dad...)

Teman teman seperjuangan yang lain...
Terima kasih atas persahabatan yang dijalinkan.. Sekiranya ada salah faham, maaf dipinta dari insan yang amat lemah ini..

Yang lain lain...
Semoga berjaya dalam kehidupan... Hablum minan nas itu penting.. Jadi jagalah ia kerana ia adalah sebahagian dari kebahagiaan kita...

The words that escape a friend's mouth are "I'll be there when you say you need me" but the words that are unheard from a true friend's heart are "I'll be there... whether you say you need me or not."

Sometimes in life, you find a special friend. Someone who changes your life just by being part of it. Someone who makes you laugh until you can't stop. Someone who makes you believe that there really is good in the world. Someone who convinces you that there really is an unlocked door just waiting for you to open it. This is forever friendship. When you're down and the world seems dark and empty, your forever friend lifts you up in spirit and makes that dark and empty world suddenly seem bright and full. Your forever friend gets you through the hard times, the sad times an the confused times. If you turn and walk away, your forever friend follows. If you lose your way, your forever friend guides you and cheers you on. Your forever friend hold your hand and tells you that everything is going to be okay. And if you find such a friend, you feel happy and complete because you need not worry. You have a forever friend, and forever has no end. 

Another month. Another year.
Another smile another tear.
Another winter and another summer too
But there can never be another you. 

So... which one is better? Wealthy or not? its you to decide... Your own friends... Not mine..

People change...

I come across an article in one of the newspaper today which told us to beware of the changes of the one we love...

The content... is basically about changes of the people that we love... and it is specifically on partner.. What I mean is the one that we care and definately in the newspaper tells us about relationship between different gender. Some points that I remember... Nah... wait for a while... I go and get the newspaper.....

...... Ok... here it goes... 

Membaca sikap pasangan

"Menyedari si dia tiba tiba berubah sudah tentu menimbulkan rasa curiga. Sedang pantai lagikan berubah, inikan pula hati orang"

Well... the intro has already put you in caution aite?? No need for me to put in everything here... but the main points can be list out...

* Tiba tiba jadi terlalu sibuk

* Berubah menjadi terlalu setia dan romantik

* kerap ke luar daerah

* Terlalu banyak berahsia

* Berubah penampilan dan pendapat

That is the main point that has been carried out... if you want to know in details, you can read Harian Metro, today's date, section "Hati".

Before we go any further, the main point here is why people changed... For me, every people change... Even a small kids also change aite? So there is no big deal when people change.. People change because of their environment.. People change because they learn... But the most important thing is that people change because they want to... 

Think again... why do you like some people.. and why do you don't like certain people? And there are moment you like this particular people ad after some time then you are starting to get away from him/her.. Why? its because of the environment that makes you change your feeling... Maybe because of the influence of your friends or maybe the person itself no longer suits you very well... its either that person changed or you yourself are the one who start changing... 

That is basically about lovers relationship....

What about work? Life? Styles? 

People also change job.. People also change their living places.. In fact people also change the cigarrate that they smoke...

Even there are people that don't want to change, but not all in their life are still the same... there MUST be a changes... Maybe people don't want to change their clothes pattern but somehow they will change in other perspective...

Things change... everything changes.. but memories don't... and thats why it called history.. 

What if u love someone who do not love u in return?

This morning i receive a message thru my YM.... its a status of my special best friend and the quote sounds the same tone of the above title....

So I reply...

azzamman69: hm...

azzamman69: why must we expect somethinng in return?

azzamman69: we love because we want to love...

azzamman69: we give because we want to give..

azzamman69: if we get something in return, that is consider bonus

azzamman69: if we don't get, just take it as something that we give to other people

azzamman69: same goes to me when i like you..

azzamman69: but i didn't expect anything in return...

azzamman69: its just i love to like you.. and make u happy..

Basically.. people hurt most when they put hope... everything in life; Business, studies, family, friends, work, scandals, secret affairs, second wife, widow, children, parents etc etc is full of hope.. But there are people who does not put hope in everything they do... they work it out the best they can and pray for the best result... If the result is good, then its good for them. If no good, then need to analyze where is the mistake.. Analyze... not blame...

Everything you do everyday is on your own choice.. you choose to go to work or continue your sleep.. you choose to love or not to love.. you choose to meet up people or not... and you choose to break up with someone or to continue.. and basically, everything you do is at your own choice... 

People influence you?? Taht is your mistakes.. why must you be influence... you have the right to make decision.. no matter whatever people told you.. you choose your own options... 

And i took the option to wrote today because it is my decision... and I'm responsible for it...

Responsible in my terms may not the same with your terms... Maybe to me I'm not responsible for publishing new post... but to e, I got other much more important responsiblilites.. More opportunity to explore, more eyes contact with people who needs help, more 'Pak Seri Siantan' session... and so it goes...  

I got option to hide my number as people misuse it.. but then... here I'm giving back the opportunity for people to have a free drinks session and some not so bed time stories to share... Provided the availability is something can be compromise.. Take care..!

Dreams..

Talking about dreams.. some are nice and some are not so nice...

Some people love to dreams.... maybe in their real life is not that nice...

In your dreams you can do anything... without worrying the consequences.. 

In your dreams also you can meet with anybody.. Either they are still alive or in the other world..

Hm... maybe we get a clue why people love to dreams...

But wake up!! we're are not in that fantasy where you can get whatever you want...

its reality bro... there are good things happen and there are bad things happen... but that makes us more matured isn't it? Stop relying on others.. we were born alone and will die alone... nobody want to die with you and if there is any, i doubt it will last long... at that moment... yes... anybody can say that.. people will intend to support u... well... that what friends are for aite? but be carefull... the most dangerous people is the one who is always say true on whatever u said..

Life can take your dreams and turn them upside down, friends will talk about you when you're not around, reality can really cut you down to size, but don't ever loose the light in your eyes. 

People make you promises they'll never keep, soon you'll know why people say talk is cheap, life resembles one big compromise but don't ever lose the light in your eyes .