Anger - Strength or Weakness...?

Well... the days seems so tight... as tight as the tight i used to wear for swimming.. Yes it hurts sometimes.. but on the other side, it does looks sexy aite.. he he.. Just an introduction... MH3107

Referring to the topic above.. what can we say?? Yes I do believe everyone have this feeling.. its a feeling that automatically arises when something is not like what we want.. or it could be anything... And sometimes, we don't even know why we became angry at certain time... don't we?

Either its your strength or weakness, it really depends on how you deal with the situation...

Some says...

“It’s okay to be angry. If a person sacrifices himself to save another, then that person should know just what kind of scars that action leaves on the rescued person......”

Most of the time we get angry when others does not fit into our requirement... such as:

* Siblings - Don't listen to what you've advised

* Kids - Is not doing what they've told

* Partners - is too stubborn - doesn't follow what you have advised (for their own good)

* etc etc

And for every cases, there are levels of angriness for each incident happened.. Some we can control and some are out of our control.. The one that is in our control should not be any issues... The one that is beyond our control is superbly will give high impact to the other parties...

"That's the only reason people get angry;
because they're hurt.
people only get angry to cover up the hurt.
people change for two reasons:
they either learn enough so that they want to,
or they hurt enough so that they just have to."

Some treat this feeling is their strength, people are scared and will follow whatever they said, they got the power to control people by showing their tiger claws whenever things are not according to what they want... But let us wear the shoes the other parties... Would we like if someone is angry to us? Most of us will treat these angry people as a person who have weakness in managing part of their feelings. Because the anger can be manage... Not only anger, others feeling as well... its just not all the time we can manage it wisely... And the things that we will not forget what people say to you when they're angry--that's when the truth comes out.

This anger somehow another need to be release.. but at the right time and place... and remember...

"Speak when you are angry and you will make the best speech you will ever regret."

In the end, its not the strength or weakness that matters, but... its a matter of how we control it... Coz nobody like when other are angry with them... And if there are people who like it, definitely something has gone wrong somewhere...

"As we grow up, we learn that even the one person that wasn't supposed to ever let us down, probably will. You'll have your heart broken and you'll break others' hearts. You'll fight with your best friend or maybe even fall in love with them, and you'll cry because time is flying by. So take too many pictures, laugh too much, forgive freely, and love like you've never been hurt. Life comes with no guarantees, no time outs, no second chances. you just have to live life to the fullest, tell someone what they mean to you and tell someone off, speak out, dance in the pouring rain, hold someone's hand, comfort a friend, fall asleep watching the sun come up, stay up late, be a flirt, and smile until your face hurts. Don't be afraid to take chances or fall in love and most of all, live in the moment because every second you spend angry or upset is a second of happiness you can never get back. "

Trust / Believe / Faith etc etc...

Timetable seems so pack nowadays.. So many issues arises and the time is so jealous with me until I didn't have it to spent some of it here..

This time lets talk about the very basic thing in our life (at least in my opinion..) which is trust..

Question.. What is trust? --> Stupid question aite?

Many people take it easy.. maybe it is a simple thing in their mind...

Google it babes... you will find the answer...

But i know, you won't google it now.. here are some that i can get over the net..

1. Assured anticipation; dependence upon something future or contingent, as if present or actual; hope; belief

2. To hope confidently; to believe; usually with a phrase or infinitive clause as the object.

3. Allow without fear

4. To be confident, as of something future; to hope.

... and there is lot more...

But the thing here is about us...

When u're still small, who do u trust? of course our parents aite? Along the way, our parents have to trust us by teaching us to walk, talk and later walk the talk..

Even in our religion, the need of trust is compulsory.. (Islam kena beriman, iman tu ape? kepercayaan kan..? So kena percaya la kesemua rukun iman tu.... Kalau tak percaya, korang tanya la diri sendiri, kat mana Islam korang ni...)

Then we start with other things:

1. Why we choose buying certain things?

2. Why we pick someone during the election?

3. Why we gave phone number to someone?

4. Why we choose someone to hang out with?

5. Why we fall in love with someone?

6. Why we make love with someone?

For me, its all about trust.. If some of you didn't agree, then i respect your opinion... But i have my own trust on this... Even if you play poker also you need to trust in your cards... (Applicable for certain people only... he he)

Nice short story...

A little girl and her father were crossing a bridge.
The father was kind of scared so he asked his little daughter:
"Sweetheart, please hold my hand so that you don't fall into the river." The little girl said:
"No, Dad. You hold my hand."
"What's the difference?" Asked the puzzled father.

"There's a big difference," replied the little girl.
"If I hold your hand and something happens to me, chances are that I may let your hand go. But if you hold my hand, I know for sure that no matter what happens, you will never let my hand go."

In any relationship, the essence of trust is not in its bind, but in its bond. So hold the hand of the person whom you love rather than expecting them to hold yours...

So when it comes to talk the truth, some people might lost their trust in you if u tell the truth.. or it might be the other way around... So the point is not about the truth... its about the trust that we need to take care...

These are a few quote that i can pick up for all of you...

"I wanted people to trust me, despite anything they'd heard. And more than that, I wanted them to know me. Not the stuff they thought they knew about me. No, the real me. I wanted them to get past the rumors. To see beyond the relationships I once had, or maybe still had but that they didn't agree with."
- Jay Asher (Thirteen Reasons Why)

“we’re never so vulnerable than when we trust someone - but paradoxically, if we cannot trust, neither can we find love or joy.”
- walter anderson

"What is Trust?
2 cannibales having sex with each other... "
- Friend's dirty joke book

"It's easy to believe someone when they tell you exactly what you want to hear "

-Unknown

"Its not that i dont believe what your telling me...its just that ive trusted you so many times before that i just dont know what to believe anymore "
- unknown

To trust someone you must trust oneself.
To trust oneself you have to have someone trust you.
To have someone trust you they have to take a chance.
To take a chance means to give oneself up to humiliation.
Thats the cycle of trust.
- ngarman

"Trust is a fragile thing. Once earned, it affords us tremendous freedom. But once trust is lost, it can be impossible to recover. Of course the truth is, we never know who we can trust. Those we’re closest to can betray us, and total strangers can come to our rescue. In the end, most people decide to trust only themselves. It really is the simplest way to keep from getting burned....."

It's not that i don't trust people , I just don't trust the devil inside them ! - MH3107

Lie... Liar

Lie..

Is very subjective...

We lie... very few people in this world that are not lying to others...

Tell me... haven't we lie to our parents?

* I'm coming back a bit late today.. got classes.. (but we're bz doing something else)

* Its ok. I've already eaten.. (but my stomach is starving..)

To our friends?

* Hang on, I'm on the way.. (While we are still looking for car key..)

* Sure.. I can lend u some money... I Still got a few.. (Shit... I just left 10 bucks in my wallet)

To our teacher?

* My homework is done already, but i left the book at home (I better do it as soon as i got home)

* I don't know where he went, i didn't see him since morning.. (Hopefully they don't see me with my friend this morning)

To our bosses?

* Almost completed bos.. ( Shit.. a lot more to go..)

* I got an MC today, so icannot come to work.. (Lucky that clinic can buy an MC)

To our partners?

* I swear I will always love you... (Can I?)

* I'm coming home a bit late.. got meeting.. (Big Boss ask for karaoke la plak...)

So... tell me... aren't similar things happen to us?

People lie for a reason...

Kids lie to their parents so that their parent would not be worried about them..

We lie to our friends so that our friends will not get angry with us..

We lie to our teacher so that we didn't get punishment..

We lie to our bosses so that our scorecard is wonderful...

We lie to our partners to avoid bad incident occurred..

But that is on our judgement...

How about their judgement? It might be the same but most of the cases is totally contradict..

They want us to tell the truth but for us, if we tell the truth, it will give negative impact..

Consider this stories...

Love Partner: Will You love me forever?

* What would you say?

1. Yes I will (Lie) - The impact can be:

* Great. I love u forever too...

* You tipu I... Betul U sayang I? (and it will lead to other question..)

* And so many others

2. I cannot assure that (True) - And the impact will be?

* U ni... tak serius ke?

* U meman tak sayang i...

* Dan sebagainya... (am i right?)

There's another answer which to some people.. they will treat it i'm bluffing and to some others they will accept it rationaly...

"At this moment, I really love you.. I cannot assure what will happen in future but I pray this feeling is forever for u.."

To some people that is good enough.. But to some who read it very carefully, they still can manipulate the words..

* Yes.. the feeling is there... but how about feeling for other people? will it be there? will it be greater than me? "You think it yourself... a.k.a. Lu pikir la sendiri...."

Lie or not telling the truth - About the same aite?

We do it for a reason... Even our nick name over the internet we don't reveal the real we... Because? Security purposes aite? I got no issues with that... Name is not important... The topics and content are more valuable...

There is another issues... I'm talking the truth.. but.. not the whole stories...

This is the interesting part.. Whereby most of businessman, lawyers, players, always use it...

* I'm coming a bit late.. (But not mentioning the specific time)

* we will meet up after lunch.. ( Also no specific time given)

* I will always love you... ( Very subjective - refer to the case above)

* And a lot more...

Basically.. what ever people said is for a good reason according to them...

But the one who receive it will judge base on their understanding...

So... come back to the topic..

Lie.. and not talking the truth.. Or.. not telling the whole stories...

Whatever it is.. Like I always says... everything that is happened, is for good reason and only God knows what the reason is...

People can say what they want... And other people can judge whatever they want...

Clarification is very important in ensuring the message delivered successfully..

Remember..

"WORDS ONLY COMPRISE 7% OF THE TOTAL IMPACT OF A MESSAGE, WITH VOCAL TONES REPRESENTING 38% AND FACIAL ESPRESSION COMPRISING 55%".....

And that is why discussion need to be made face to face... not over the phone...

To my readers that have issues, I pray a very good luck to all of you..

I pause for now till i got time and issues that i can share...

But my time for you is always available provided appointment is there...

Take care...

Issues again

Hm...

My dearest reader..

It seems a lot of issues since i meet up with a few new friends lately...

Some got issues with their work but mostly with their life... I mean issues with the one that close with them...

My sister, have issues with her husband..

My friends also have issues with their partner..

My uncle, have issues with me...

But me... I don't have issues with anybody... (Am I?)

Let me share with you some stories...

There is a friend of mine.. which already divorce.. got 2 kids..

Reason of divorce, the husband is irresponsible.. no job, (which he had previously) but pretend in front of his mother that he has the job.. Poor the wife.. have to work and at the same time been treating like 'menghabiskan duit suami' by her mother in law..

Not only that.. Her issues became bigger when her parents also dismiss her from the house.. and her family... Its like a 'drama swasta' to me... (I think I've shared this stories before..)

Last night.. Ive heard she just had an operation because of ovarian cease.. Caused by an operation 13 years ago....

Satu satu masalah datang.. I felt very pit for her...

Then her employer are not willing to take the risk and terminate her...

What would u do if u're wearing her shoes?

Damm hard...

But when we start talking about life... it seems she feels a bit better...

And I know she is a very tough person...

But deep in her heart... I'm not sure if she is happy or just a fake smile i've seen in the face...

I just hope that she is having a great moments in her life....

To my friend that i mention in above stories and to all my other readers....

"live why you can because one day you might not have that life you cheerish so "....